I AM compassion

Compassion, not constant criticism is crucial. These days we are told to be critical about everything, but many times we forget the difference between thinking critically and criticising*. We can still have compassion while being critical, but criticism often comes from a place of judgement and moral high ground, and judgement comes from our minds, not from our authentic being. Even if our critical minds have figured out "what's right", we need compassion moving forward. We can believe in a truth, and what we think is right, without constantly criticising other people's "rights".

Now, of course this is nuanced. You may think - when horrible, evil acts are made against others, how can we have compassion? And I am not telling you that you should not feel that way. But observe that feeling, and rather that acting from criticism, which would most likely ignite more negativity and not solve anything other than benefit your sense of moral high ground, act from compassion to focus on the solution. And that compassion can be in your daily example. 

I strongly believe we would have less evil acts if we collectively had more compassion rather than criticism. What good will come from criticising, choosing a side, and refusing to have any compassion for any other side or point of view? Think critically, yes, because that is what will help you see that there is always more than one side to each story, and that even your own is bias, but do not confuse questioning with criticism. 

Some may think that not blindly sticking by your beliefs is weak and shows a lack of commitment, but I beg to differ. I believe the wisest of all are those who keep an open mind, and by that I mean a truly open mind, to approach any situation or belief, no matter how it differs with your own, without judgement. Because our beings do not judge or criticise - our minds do. 

And this works for ourselves too! It ALL starts with self-compassion. For if we do not have compassion for ourselves, how will we have compassion for anyone else? This, much like any skill, is something you can practise. Try right now by taking your right hand and holding it open, palm side up, in front of you. Imagine all the people in the world you love and all the compassion you have towards them in the palm of your hand. Heavy, right? Even overwhelming, perhaps, how much compassion you carry for them? Then take your hand and place it on your heart, giving yourself that same compassion you have towards them. Sit with that feeling. Let it fill your body. And know, you are worthy of compassion, you are compassion.

So, back to the start. When you notice your mind automatically criticising next time, catch it in the act. You think your friend made a bad choice? Compassion. You think your partner is wrong in an argument? Compassion. You don't agree with your relative's political views? Compassion. And you will soon realise, that you will act and speak your truth from a much stronger place than before, from a place of compassion, where your very being is founded and most confident. It will become more powerful than any criticism ever could. Turn criticism to compassion, and see what happens.

Question: What is one way today that I can choose to show compassion?

Affirmations: I am worthy of compassion. I am compassionate towards myself and others.

*Criticism is often directed at a person. Critical thinking should always be directed toward the argument (or produced work, or concept). reference: https://suzannemanningblog.wordpress.com/2015/02/05/critical-thinking-versus-criticism-helping-students-know-the-difference/

Yours authentically,

Vanessa